Saturday, October 22, 2016

Raging Seas.

I woke up a few days ago with the storm of Acts 27 on my mind.

So...obviously...I read it. There was clearly something for me to see.

The Shipwreck

27 On the fourteenth night we were still being driven across the Adriatic[c] Sea, when about midnight the sailors sensed they were approaching land. 28 They took soundings and found that the water was a hundred and twenty feet[d] deep. A short time later they took soundings again and found it was ninety feet[e] deep.29 Fearing that we would be dashed against the rocks, they dropped four anchors from the stern and prayed for daylight. 30 In an attempt to escape from the ship, the sailors let the lifeboat down into the sea, pretending they were going to lower some anchors from the bow. 31 Then Paul said to the centurion and the soldiers, “Unless these men stay with the ship, you cannot be saved.” 32 So the soldiers cut the ropes that held the lifeboat and let it drift away.
33 Just before dawn Paul urged them all to eat. “For the last fourteen days,” he said, “you have been in constant suspense and have gone without food—you haven’t eaten anything. 34 Now I urge you to take some food. You need it to survive. Not one of you will lose a single hair from his head.” 35 After he said this, he took some bread and gave thanks to God in front of them all. Then he broke itand began to eat. 36 They were all encouraged and ate some food themselves.37 Altogether there were 276 of us on board. 38 When they had eaten as much as they wanted, they lightened the ship by throwing the grain into the sea.
39 When daylight came, they did not recognize the land, but they saw a bay with a sandy beach, where they decided to run the ship aground if they could. 40 Cutting loose the anchors, they left them in the sea and at the same time untied the ropes that held the rudders. Then they hoisted the foresail to the wind and made for the beach. 41 But the ship struck a sandbar and ran aground. The bow stuck fast and would not move, and the stern was broken to pieces by the pounding of the surf.
42 The soldiers planned to kill the prisoners to prevent any of them from swimming away and escaping. 43 But the centurion wanted to spare Paul’s life and kept them from carrying out their plan. He ordered those who could swim to jump overboard first and get to land. 44 The rest were to get there on planks or on other pieces of the ship. In this way everyone reached land safely.

Growing up, I had read a youth book on that storm so it was always a favorite. You know when you have a favorite Bible story...? You know all the details about it? Yeah.

Or not.

I didn't remember AT ALL that an angel appeared to Paul and told him they would all survive.

I did remember that they went through a horrific storm.

But reading that the angel appeared and told Paul they'd all survive...yet they still went through a horrific 14 day nightmare on the sea...

Well that's a big deal.

It was so horrific that the other men refused to eat the full 14 days. Paul however...he had this calm.  He knew they'd survive. He actually knew not a hair would be lost from anyone.  And that carried him through the storm in peace.

We have been very clear. We are in a storm.  THE storm.  God has shown up time and time again. I've woken in the night with the song "good good Father" in my head. I have had friends who knew NOTHING of what we are going through tell me they felt strongly they should tell me a verse or devotional they were reading that God nudged them it was for us. And many times, we have been brought to tears reading them. They were so very applicable.

God telling us...we would survive the storm.

But...not calming the seas.

We are still in the storm.

There is so much light at the end of the tunnel...but it still (for me) seems a long ways off. Can we humbly ask that you pray for our family? All of us. Please pray.

Life has been a whirlwind of events and I have zero doubt that I will look back on this year of our lives and wonder if I really lived it.  Or if it was a fuzzy dream.  Yet forever we will have the scars to remind us...we indeed lived it.

Broken.  Shattered.  Beaten. Barely the strength or desire to 'keep eating while on these raging seas'...yet hearing God's promises over and over. Many times...through you.  The random gifts in the mail from people we barely know. The messages that show up with verses I don't even remember reading before. How could they be so applicable?  Seeing a movie and walking out sobbing because the parallels of our story were so unexpected. The people near and far...rallying around us to do battle with us.  In this storm.

Please, we are once again asking...rally around us with your prayers.  War Room style prayers on our behalf.  Pray that our family would be protected at every level.  That God would part seas. Open hearts to see truth. And set up an army to fight for us.

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Open my eyes that I may see.

I read a book recently that hit me right between the eyes. I often hesitate to recommend a book because it really depends where you are when you read it.  For me...this this time in my life...was life changing.

Through the Eyes of A Lion by Levi Lusko.

One of the parts that brought me to tears early in the book was when he said to put the book down and go look at the sky.  I was reading outside, on the deck, at about 11 am.  So...I did. I felt a little odd doing it but...I did it.  And of course...I saw a clear blue sky.

I sat back down to read the book.  He asked if I saw hundreds of stars.  Not quite.  But then he went on to say that just because I didn't see hundreds of stars...doesn't mean they weren't there.

That's all it took for me. Everything hit me right there.  I got the point. I knew what he was saying and it hit me right where I needed it.

The heart.

Later that night I came outside. I stood on the same spot on the deck and looked up to the same sky. It was amazing. Stars as far as I could see. And I suddenly flashed back to a few hours earlier when I was standing there looking at a clear blue sky.

Same sky. Same stars. One time I saw them, another time I didn't. They were always there.

I ran to get my Bible and read one of my favorite stories.

Elisha Traps Blinded Arameans

Now the king of Aram was at war with Israel. After conferring with his officers, he said, “I will set up my camp in such and such a place.”
The man of God sent word to the king of Israel: “Beware of passing that place, because the Arameans are going down there.” 10 So the king of Israel checked on the place indicated by the man of God. Time and again Elisha warned the king, so that he was on his guard in such places.
11 This enraged the king of Aram. He summoned his officers and demanded of them, “Tell me! Which of us is on the side of the king of Israel?”
12 “None of us, my lord the king,” said one of his officers, “but Elisha, the prophet who is in Israel, tells the king of Israel the very words you speak in your bedroom.”
13 “Go, find out where he is,” the king ordered, “so I can send men and capture him.” The report came back: “He is in Dothan.” 14 Then he sent horses and chariots and a strong force there. They went by night and surrounded the city.
15 When the servant of the man of God got up and went out early the next morning, an army with horses and chariots had surrounded the city. “Oh no, my lord! What shall we do?” the servant asked.
16 “Don’t be afraid,” the prophet answered. “Those who are with us are more than those who are with them.”
17 And Elisha prayed, “Open his eyes, Lord, so that he may see.” Then the Lordopened the servant’s eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha.
The angels were there.  The whole time. But until Gehazi's eyes were opened...he couldn't see them. 

In a practical every day way, this helped me so much a few days ago.  As most of you know, I hate to fly. Like...really hate to fly.  But if I can see down...I fly much better. In a cloud? I feel totally claustrophobic and it's ... not good.  Well...we had zero visibility.  And this all came back to me.  Janice...the stars are right there...the lights below are right there.  It's all there. Just because you can't see's still there. And in a moment the sky instantly cleared and I could see above and below.  To all nearby passengers I looked a little crazy as I was smiling from ear to ear (still with white knuckles) looking out the window.  

Then there's the moment where I was trapped.  In a situation so dreadful I've never even feared it.'s that bad.  And as I'm hearing the most horrific things said and slung about the heart pounding out of my body...I was trying so hard not to let emotion win...

but it did.

And the tears came and I couldn't stop them. And in this situation, in this this moment... I DID NOT WANT TO CRY.  Over and over and over my mind prayed "open my eyes that I may see". see an army of angels swarming around that room would have changed everything.  I don't think the smile made it to my lips but inside it was actually starting to form in my heart. Just because I couldn't see them...didn't change a thing.  

They were there.

Where are you? I know. Not in the dreadful situation we are in. And I'm so very glad.  I wouldn't wish this on anyone.  But wherever you whatever hard you are facing...perhaps you needed to read this.  

Just because you can't see Him...doesn't mean He's not there.

He is there. 

In fact...He promises to never leave. Never forsake. 


Though I was feeling like the plane was out of control and going the wrong direction and all was lost (yes..I know. It's an awful way to fly!)...the stars were still there. The city lights below. It was just a cloud.  It blocked my view but didn't change where I was.  The stars weren't any further away.  

When your life is going awesome...God is no closer. Or to state as well often feel...when you are in the valley of the shadow of death...God is not far away. Heaven is not silent.   In fact Psalm 34:18 states: 
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

I get it.  I do.  I get faith being an active choice.  I do.  But oh to have our eyes opened. And see what's really happening. To see the army there and ready.  

Open my eyes...that I may see.

Saturday, September 24, 2016


Our time in Florida has come to an end.

Even though at day 3 or 4 I was already dreading this day, it does not come as I expected.  I am not sad. I am not filled with dread.

I've thought today about how I could someday write about these 2 weeks here. And I felt a lump in my throat immediately.  You know those moments in your life that could never be told as they really were...? The emotion something that could never be verbally explained...? The birth of your child? The death of someone you loved? Sure pictures and memories attempt to tell the story but it never really gives the full picture.

This trip.  The fact that I start to cry when I think about this trip...tells you more than my words ever could.  Someday...I'll try.  I'll try to paint the full story.  This was our healing trip. But...not our two weeks to be healed. No...definitely not.

This was the first big step in our healing.  And oh...only Heaven knows what has happened on this trip.  The gift to my soul in these last two weeks is something I could never fully articulate.  Ever.

The gifts have been so many.  So very many.  I've not even shared the half of them.  The fact that a friend of a friend works at Disney World and blessed our socks off with helping us with tickets.  Or the friend that contacted me not knowing anything that we are going through saying God laid it clearly on their hearts to give us a certain amount of money.  The many many many notes I've received from people that know me so very little...with words they will someday know God gave them to send to me. Or the friend that heard we are coming back through their way and graciously invited us to stay and get to know them better. And of course...the gift of this condo for 2 full weeks.  Fully gifted.

Through it all we have been humbled...grateful...and most of all in awe.  Both of us have said that over and over.  We are simply in awe of how God has shown us we are right in the palm of His hand. And in this storm? We needed that reminder. And will need it.

For me as I look back on these two weeks of bliss...I see so much.  Sunshine every single day. Lots of little brown faces and yawns at the end of every day.  The quiet, consistent crash of one wave after another right off our deck.  All of it...what I walk away with hope.

I came here with very little.  Very, very little hope.

I was a mess.  Many questions. So very few answers.  Honestly...I came with a decision. A decision to still have faith. A decision to believe.  A decision to not doubt.  A decision.

But I'm leaving with hope.  I've seen it.  I've seen what I could never have even wished for.  I've seen the look in a child's eye filled with wonder and joy. I've seen laughter come alive that's been missing . I've seen life...totally renewed.  And like a warm Gulf wave over a shattered's given me hope.

I remember when my sister, Joanne, graduated just a year ahead of me. She chose this quote for her year book photo.  "Never deprive someone of may be all they have." I have never seen her year book since 1997 and I have never ever forgotten that quote beside her graduation picture.

I have thought of it so many times in these recent months.  As my hope waned and I felt the lifelessness take over...I knew I needed it breathed back in to me.

Could I ever fully express what has happened here? Not the physical...not the fun and the memories. No...I'm talking about something that has happened inside of me and I'm sure you can see it on the outside.

This is one of my favorite verses.  It puts things in perspective.  I know the here and now isn't what my story is all about.  I know there's a greater picture being painted and I love how this verse reminds me of that.

2 Corinthians 4:16-18 NIV

So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.

We don't lose heart.  Oh...I have.  I have.  Those nights when I collapsed on the floor sobbing saying over and over and over "I can't! I can't! I can't do this!!! I can do anything but this!!"  I love this verse.

I know right now this is all so very vague.  I want you to know why I made the decision to blog now. In the thick of it.  I'm a realist.  To the core.  Tell me all the worse case scenario stuff and let me prepare for the worst.  It's how my brain works.  And for me...when I'm going through something like I am right now...I want to read someone's story when they were right there. Right there, in the eye of the storm.  Not after they made it through. Our tone changes then. Doesn't it? Hearing my children talk about the scary rides at Disney a week later...? So different than when they were on it! Screaming and clutching my arm for dear life.  Now? "It wasn't THAT bad..." "I mean...I'd do it again..." and I smile.  Not quite.  That's not quite the real story.  And they may do it again! But tell us how it was IN the moment. That's me.  And so when this storm hit I knew I was faced with a decision. I couldn't tell you the specifics...but I could choose to stay silent and tell about it after (if...) we survived it.  How there were so many gifts that offset the pain. How my faith was still rock solid (forgetting that it was shaken to the core and I questioned every thing I knew to be true...) That's when I knew.  I decided to tell the real time. Though I can't share the details now...someday when they are can look back and see this story 'in the raw'.

Hope.  Tonight as we pack the van to leave early in the heart is filled with hope.  There IS a future.  There IS a path that can be filled with joy here. There IS something bigger happening that I can't see. God CAN use this story for good.  I came so very empty. Frail. Weak. Full of questions. I'm leaving still frail. Still weak. But knowing there is hope.  I have seen it.  And it has changed me.

For I know the plans I have for you. declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. — Jeremiah 29:11(NIV).

Wednesday, September 21, 2016


We were at Disney's Magic Kingdom last week and I had finally convinced Tirzah and Zion to go with me on the 'log ride'.  I remember from our Wish trip 3 years ago that there were some surprises on the ride.

Well we made it on.  Zion was looking awfully nervous.  Tirzah was starting to regret it.

But just before we got on, we had counted in 1-1000's as people would go over the 40 foot plunge. We determined it was just a bit over 2 full seconds. That's it.  A great ride...with 2 seconds of terror.  We could do that.

What I forgot about was the first the dark.  So I already had kids clinging to me from behind...from the start of the ride.  The funny part about this all is that I...their not brave on rides. I don't do crazy roller coasters and I'm really not brave.

Yet in this moment...I'm the bravest one.  Funny how parenthood does that!

So we had finally come to the part in the ride...where the log climbed and climbed.  I turned around to see Azahria holding on tightly. Zion looking terrified and secretly begging for a way of escape.  Tirzah's eyes already closed. Zihao and Azlan were on either side of me.  I had time to catch most of their eyes and say one last time "2 seconds of courage, you guys, we can do this!".  I tried to keep my eyes open and I even tried to scream. Something happens at about the 20 ft mark where you literally...physcially...cannot.  You can't breathe. You cannot see.  And you just fall.  When we landed I looked back to see Zion let out a scream he had been unable to release...and then he started to sob.  Tirzah shook her head at me and said "never ever ever again".  I'm laughing more at the fact that I, Janice Walker, am consoling anyone since I'm the biggest wimp ever.  Azlan said he was fine til half way when he was sure we were dying. Azahria was a little pale.  Zihao said it was pretty scary.  And Zion is still sobbing.  Tirzah's head is still shaking.

I kept trying to get in there that we did it.  We did it. We didn't like it...but we did it. And to keep it in perspective it wasn't a scary ride, it was a very scary 2 seconds.

And yes...this thought is so powerful.  There was a Toby Mac quote on fb recently that said "was it a bad day? Or was it a bad 5 minutes that you let control your day?" (something to that effect).

We see what we look for.  I believe that with all my heart.

Right now? Our family is looking for gifts.  And we are seeing them. In abundance.  And in the grand scheme of our life...the big big picture...this trial is not our whole life. At the moment it feels like it. No question. But ... it's not.

What I have seen this week is so beautiful it's hard for me to express it here.  I've seen a little girl come alive.  Literally find her wings and fly.  Not even start to's flying.  And that...that was the purpose for this trip.  Our healing trip.

Courage.  There are many ways to describe it. One of my favorites is "being terrified and doing it anyway".  It's kind of like my "I can do hard things".  I think what resonates with people with that line is that we are acknowledging it's hard!  That's not a sign of weakness. No...that's just stating the facts. I'm a realist.  It's hard!! But it's the next part that the courage comes into play.  I CAN DO IT!  So it's hard. So what.  We got that out on the table. It's hard. Harder than I'd ever choose.  Harder than I wanted life to be.  Harder that I was prepared for.  Ok.  What next? No quitting. No throwing in the towel.  No burying myself under a mountain of blankets and curling into a fetal position until someone assures me that it's easy.  No.  No.  It's terrifying. It's hard. But let's do it.

Shortly after our world fell part early summer...I remember thinking very vividly that the tendency would be to just survive through this storm. And honestly..even that would take divine intervention. But I didn't want that to happen.  I didn't want our children to look back on those dark, horrific days as the darkest days in our lives.  I became fiercely intentional.


I didn't sleep a wink that first night. I sobbed ALL night.  At 7am I had a feast on the table and we went for a picnic that afternoon. The middle of a work day.  The next day we went out for a family movie...something we never do.  The next day we went to a friends house and had lunch in their back yard. The next day we played a 2plus hour game of Monopoly in the middle of the afternoon.  And every single day...there was something we did as a own that day.  When I could barely breathe.  And I mean that.  My chest hurts as I type just reliving those moments. That doesn't make me stronger. I assure you.  I'm so very weak. So very frail.

It's that childhood stubborness finally being channelled the right direction.  I will not quit. I will not roll over. I will let these days be destroyed on my watch. I am TERRIFIED.  But I will do it anyway.

One of the children recently said this past summer was the very best summer they can ever remember.  And I got goosebumps.  It was the worst months of my entire life.  No question.  I'm not a sugar coater.  They knew what was going on.  They came in to our room many times to see me sobbing and hitting my pillow.  They knew.  But they also saw determination and courage to be intentional.

When we absolutely didn't feel like it. When every part of us wanted to give up.

As we are sitting at the bottom of the log ride...Zion finally stops crying long enough to give me his attention.  I held his hand and told him to focus on the fact that he did it.  He did it. He had the 2 seconds of courage. He did it.  And to not sit there reliving the terror of that drop.

His face changed.  It was like I had just pulled him out of that place...into this place.  A place of defeat and regret to a place of victory.

As we got off the ride...I smiled.  Not because of the ride. But because I know one of the greatest battles is the battle of the mind.  And little does Zion know that i'm in the same fight. Every moment of the day.  In many areas of my life.  Do I sit reliving the horror and feel the weight of the terror and all the regret that comes with it...or do I look back and go "Ahhhh. God...we made it.  This far. We made it here. We are alive." Do I feel the victory or sit in the regret? And we are by no means in a place of where this is all behind us.

We were walking towards Dean and the other kids when Zion looked at me and said "ok I'm glad you named me Zion Courage, I need that".

Yes.  That is his name.  He's not the one that naturally has it. He's the one that needs the reminder that he can choose.


Thursday, September 15, 2016

The trip of a lifetime.

Several weeks ago, a friend contacted me and said we were on her heart and she wanted to offer us a week in Florida in their condo if we could make it there. I called her. I told her our story. Our storm. We both sobbed together on the phone. She then said "it's yours for the month of September if you can get there."

In that moment I knew.  I knew we must go.

We are self employed. We can work from anywhere. We homeschool our children.  And we...? We are in the storm of all storms.  And we needed a brief escape.

Ever since the storm first revealed itself early summer...I kept waking with images of Florida in my head. It was so strange.  When this friend offered this trip...I knew this would be deeply emotional for me.

So on September 2nd, we hit the road.  What an amazing adventure it has been.  47 hours each way driving.  Some nights we camped. Many nights amazing friends insisted we stay with them. We are not a small family...and their generosity was clearly over the top.  What a gift this trip has been.  Every step of the way.  To hanging with our friends in Boise, ID.  To camping in an incredible state park in CO with a  breathtaking view (and hair raising drive to get to it).  To meeting with my close friend in CO and receiving an amazing gift that still leaves us shocked.  To hanging with my amazing friend and business partner in Kansas, and bunking with another friend and business partner in Tennessee.  The next night we arrived in Louisana and hung out with more amazing friends. As we were ready to hit the road to camp, they insisted we stay overnight. What an amazing night and they were so so kind.  The final day we drove through Pensacola, FL where we bought our van. We went to the dealership and they repaired our window (oh...a sheet of plywood went flying off a truck we were passing in MO and shattered Zion's passenger window! It was rather terrifying!) temporarily and prayed with us. Dean mentioned we are going through the storm right now and the man said we must share our story.  He talked about how generation after generation have hidden the stuff, swept it under the carpet and that freedom comes from sharing.  Just another voice in this journey saying the same loud and clear message.

As we drove to the beach, the car ahead of us paid our toll.  You know ... it was a dollar or two. I don't remember. But who pays for someone else's toll?  It was yet another gift. Another whisper from Heaven saying "I'm here. I've got you. I've got your story."

We drove to the beach and got out to see sunset. It took my breath away.  Not the sunset...but the fact that we were there. The dream God put in my heart was now a reality. In the roughest season of our lives.  I kept blinking the tears away as Izrael chased the birds and the other kids stared out at the ocean.  This gift would never be lost on me.  And was from amazing people. But it was also from God Himself.

Because of our choice to stop and hang out in Pensacola, we had to drive all night to our condo. It was tough. We sang, we talked, we ate, we counted deer on the side of the road, Dean poured water on his head...and we lived.

How can each day literally be a perfect day...?

How can each day remind you of the gift so tangibly...?  The real gift.  The gift of His love.  The gift that nothing above or below can separate us from it.  Not this fire or any fire.

We have seen incredible gifts every single day.  I'm so glad that months ago, at the beginning of this journey, a stranger told me to look for the gifts. She said "if you don't, you will miss them..." and she was so right.  There are days that the pain is so overwhelming that you can't see the next step. No matter how bright and clear the looks dark and gloomy and you can feel the storms looming.

Nazara bouncing in the waves of the ocean for hours on end. Saying "Mommy...I love it here". Izrael seeing a bird and getting much closer than anyone could imagine as she beams from ear to ear.  Zihao learning to surf.  The older kids building sand castles, surfing with Daddy and coming in like little brown bears at the end of the day.

Random dates on the board walk. Really awesome food. Amazing views. And with the love of my life.

It all feels like a dream. And the fact that we have one more full week here...? Bliss.  Pure bliss.

We did Magic Kingdom last week and it was simply amazing. I'm not a huge Disney buff but I'll never deny the magic there. There's something special there.  Where we all become transported to our youth.  Rides. Heat. Food. All of it.  We spent 13 hours there...savoring every moment and using every penny spent...well.

We could only do one Disney day so this was the day we chose. But on the way driving down...a friend blew our socks off and surprised us with the gift of another day!  The kids have not stopped talking about it and they still can't believe it. So Monday we do Animal Kingdom and we are so excited.

We are trying to mix beach days with adventure days. Tomorrow we go to Kennedy Space Center and the boys are really looking forward to that.  Tuesday, Daddy, Zion, Azlan and Azahria go deep sea fishing for 5 hours and they can't wait.

But the real gift...? Is being whisked away from the storm. It's never left our minds. Especially mine. In fact, I woke this morning feeling sicker than usual as I felt this dread come over me about returning home.  I don't want to go home.  And yes, I know how sad that is with our brand new home.  It's not lack of gratefulness...not one bit.  It's the presence of horrific memories that I don't want to face. Again.  I just don't want to go back.

Dean came over  beside me and rubbed my back.  He reminded me of all God is doing and will continue to do. He reminded me that we have a business trip as soon as we get home and that my parents will be with us for several weeks.  That there will be beauty there.

And so today, I make yet another Janice-decision  to not let my emotions win.  Decision trumps emotion. That's been my motto.  And it's so very hard to live out.

Choose to live this week. Not next.  Not yet.  This week we still have amazing memories to make.  We were swimming in the ocean and I looked at Azlan and said "why don't we collect shells to help us remember this trip?" He didn't hesitate. "Mommy...I don't need shells to remember. I will never ever forget this trip."

The things I have learned in the 'valley of the shadow of death' (that's no exaggeration)...

1.  Look for the gifts.  They are there. But if you don't will miss them.
2. When you go through the fire of all fires, your faith will be tested all the way to the core.  And in the end, it may come down to a choice.  Choosing to believe.  Choosing to have faith. Choosing to stand on God's promises even when nothing makes sense right now.
3. Your tribe is vital.  Don't isolate yourself.  I know...I know. We get married, we grow up and we get busy. And our friendships all fall by the way side. I can tell you first hand there are many days when my tribe of amazing friends saved me. Kept me breathing. Kept me moving.  There is no question. I cannot tell you enough how important good, solid friendships are in the storm.  Yes, I know this comes with vulnerability. We have all been hurt. I'm no exception.  I'm just glad I trusted again.  Because these friends? They are my tribe and God used them daily in this journey.
4. God redeems. It's what He does.  He's not responsible for the evil. That's not him. He steps in and takes that mess of a story and redeems it. And it leaves us all baffled how He makes something much more beautiful than before out of the disaster. It doesn't even make sense. It's just what He does.  Let God use your story. All of it.  Not just the parts you are proud of. Not the parts you want to share. The other parts.  The parts you want to hide.  The ones that bring up old emotions and pain.  Those ones.  You are not the only one.  It feels that way, but you aren't.  What has amazed me in this how when we share our story and someone lights up and says "not all of the details but that happened to me...and I've kept it quiet for years because of shame.  If you tell your story, you will help me heal. You will help me find freedom. Please share this story..."  Ok. Woah.
Sharing your mountain top experiences rarely inspires someone.  It's when you share how you survived the valley. The valley...sometimes quite literally...of the shadow of death.  That's what brings hope. That's what gives life. That's what inspires.  Of course it comes with risk. Of course there are people that will do whatever you fear.  Don't focus on them.  Focus on the ones you can help. And yes, YOUR story...can free others.  Let God redeem. Let God free people through the transparency of your story.  It's something only He can do...yet we limit Him but hiding it.
I've said from the beginning we will share.  We just cannot yet.  Truly, cannot.  Once we can, we will.  And it's not pretty.  You will wonder how we lived.  And we will be able to tell you that God gave each next breath.  And the friends He places in our life offered us lifelines just when we needed them.

And the gifts. Oh the gifts. From paid tolls, to another day at Disney, to people we barely know refusing to let us camp in the heat and humidity and insisting we move in the for the night, to friends from  WA buying us pizza for dinner in FL as they go through their own battle with cancer, to 30,000 less people showing up at Disney than normal giving us a lot better day, to Make A Wish donors extending their offer of free entrance 3 years after expiration giving us experiences we simply could not afford, to a box showing up at our condo door with Disney autograph and photo albums for each of our children to make their experience even more magical, to Nazara patting me on the back as I cried reliving the pain whispering in my ear "Mommy...I keep you safe" to the gift of a new life. When we never could have planned it. Now...? Here...? Yes.  Here.  When many days it's what kept me eating. Kept me breathing.  He makes no mistakes.  This baby's name will be very significant of the time in our life he/she was given to us.

Today as our life is put on pause yet again, for another day of sand castles, surfing waves in the ocean, late ice cream walks and laughs for hours without interruption...we are reminded of His gifts.  How could something so beautiful come out of something so dark? How can we have a trip we will never ever ever ever forget in the darkest time of our lives?

This is just the beginning of God's redemption of our story.  Which was never really ours to begin with.  His story.

It's all His.

Thursday, September 1, 2016

The darker the storm...the brighter the rainbow.

We have not kept it a secret that we have been in the fight of our lives.  It has been the storm of all storms.  Left us broken hearted, in deep pain and grief.

In the middle of the darkest of dark paths...we found out we are expecting a baby.  Instantly, I saw the gift for what it was.

Hope.  New life.  A future.

Several months ago one of my close friends was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. We were all heartbroken and on our knees. One of my first prayers was that her husband would buy the house they changed their mind on just a few weeks before. When she called me to tell me he bought the house, on his own, and told her once the deal was done...I was ecstatic.  I knew that would be a message to her loud and clear..."you have a future and I'm investing in it!" and it was.

This pregnancy...right that gift.  No we couldn't have planned the timing.  Yes the darkness is almost tangible.  But this sudden unexpected gift now? It was a "your family has a future and hope" moment.

So much hope. So much joy. So much life was just breathed into our hurting family.

Ever since I found out...I have heard over and over and over in my head "the darker the storm...the brighter the rainbow."  Yes.  The storm has been horrific.  Darker than dark.  Pain deeper than I knew I could survive.  Hearts loosely stitched together.  Dark.   But...oh the rainbow.  A rainbow is always beautiful.  Always.  But have you ever seen one while the storm clouds still hung low? While the sky is still raging? The heavens almost seem angry? And right the middle of it all...the stark contrast of the beauty of the rainbow.  That.

With a strong heartbeat over 175 at 10 weeks, and a mama sick around the clock...this little one is due late March.  Thank you for sharing our joy.

Sunday, July 24, 2016

We are alive. :)

Sorry I've been so silent.

I've received plenty of messages of concern and want you all to know...we are indeed alive.

Two weeks ago, our mountain caught on fire and that provided some real excitement for some special boys :) While we didn't have huge concern that our home was at risk, this was a massive wildfire and we were evacuated and were told our home was "indefensible" by the firemen. So...yes. It was a real concern.

We were back in the house that night and continued to watch the fire burn out our window (a very safe distance from us at that point).  We heard that some boys caused the fire and were fined a HUGE fine.  Yikes!!

So we went from this:

To this:

But our house survived.  And yes...with the tremendous amount of hard things we've been going through...losing our house on top of it would have been a pretty big deal.  Thankful.

Someone just blessed our socks off, out of the blue, offering us a condo on the beach in Florida for a MONTH totally free!! So, the Walker crew will be driving to Florida in September (yes well over 40 hours each way) and taking the entire month of September (including driving time) to go on this amazing adventure!  So thankful for the freedom our life gives us, both of us working from home that allows us to pick up and leave for a month.
We are counting down the days and cannot wait.  Nazara cannot believe she can actually meet Minnie Mouse and Izrael is so excited to see a princess castle!  Days of beach time and really...? Healing.  There are no words for this gift.  We are so very grateful.  As many of you know, the ocean is healing for me.

We've never needed it more.

Thank you for praying for us. And please...continue.  God has shown up in ways that has left our mouths open.  This has been a very, very dark journey but someone made us promise we would look for the gifts along the way.  And oh...the gifts.

So many gifts.

Including this amazing Florida adventure.

And friends that have rallied around us.  And each of you. Who have prayed for us when you didn't even know why.  From the bottom of our hearts, thank you!

Someday, I'll share our story.

I will.