Sunday, December 28, 2014

Raising big hearts.

We have boys. Six of them!! They are all boy.  Chazano and Zion LOVE football and most other sports. They all love lego, transformers and ninjas.

They have heart.

We have worked hard to nurture heart, especially in our sons.

Isn't it interesting how 'heart' gets knocked as a boy and as a teen but when you are an adult...heart is an amazing thing in a husband and father...? But...what about the gap?  If it's not cool as a kid...when does it suddenly...become cool?

We've been working hard against the grain.

On Christmas Eve we watched "The Great Escape" with our older kids.

At one point, I was cleaning the kitchen and Zion (9) stepped around the corner and offered to help. Yes....he would step away from a roller coaster to offer to help.  But...I noticed his lip was quivering. I bent down to ask what was wrong and the tears came.  I had no idea what was going on.

Then he said "Mom...he died.  I can't believe he died. That was the saddest thing ever. He was killed. And did you know he was blind...?"

A man in the movie.

I bent down and hugged him and agreed how awfully said it was. We talked about tough things and how they do happen, especially in war. (This is our child that has been obsessed with the army since he was a toddler).

After we were done talking, I kept loading the dishwasher.  I could see his reflection in the window. He put his face in his hands and sobbed.


All boy. Tough, rough, football...boy.  With heart.

We cherish it here.

Our philosophy for parenting is we are raising little people.  Not babies. Not toddlers. Not children.  We are raising...the next generation.  What we cultivate today...becomes greater tomorrow.  Whether that's cute little temper tantrums of a 2 year old ... that turn into not-so-cute, embarrassing outbursts of a 4 year old 'tomorrow'....or soft, sensitive hearts in young children...that become people of empathy tomorrow.

Future Mrs. can thank us later.

1 comment:

  1. I love this so, so very much! My two boys are like this, not to our credit, but the Lord has certainly bent them toward sweetness. And it's something we have worked to nurture in them. And as they hurtle toward teen-hood, you're is totally counter-culture for boys to be sensitive, empathetic, and sweet. But how right you are, it's what we want out of thank you for daring to address the subject of closing the gap. Of raising people. Of raising the men God wants in His kingdom!