I've often gotten asked what I think of all the "racial" happenings with police officers across America today.
I, as you know, do have 2 black children. I also...by the way...have 6 white children and 2 asian children.
What I believe... goes across the racial divide.
I DO believe there is still racial profiling today. No question. I DON'T believe that's always the case.
I don't teach my children they will be mistreated for their color...I do teach them to respect authorities. Always.
Isn't that where this comes down? I mean...if any of my children...regardless of color...did what some of these kids do to police officers or anyone in authority...I would be mortified. Because that would reflect on me and what I've taught them.
I think it's sad. The whole thing is sad. The lack of plain-and-simple PARENTING today is sad. The lack of respect for authority today...is just sad. The fact that police officers are afraid to do their job today for fear of being accused of racial profiling...is sad. Right and Wrong goes across the racial divide. Doesn't it...?
That's what we teach our children. Some may treat you differently...but you are responsible...for YOU.
If one of my children hits another...and the other hits back....who gets disciplined?
You are responsible...for YOU.
Yes he hit you...and he will be disciplined for that. And you hit him. And that was the wrong choice. So you will also be disciplined for that. `
Just recently I was talking to the 6 older children and reminding them they can do whatever they want. One particular child looked at me and said "Really??"as he lit up. Yes, I assured him. Whatever you want. Obey...disobey...it's 100% up to you. You have the power to choose. While his eyebrows were still high and his eyes darting back and forth, no doubt entertaining all the possibilities...I reminded him that while he chooses the action, WE choose the consequence. And he can be 100% sure there will be consequences. He said "oh yah, never mind".
Wait...is that perhaps missing today...? In parenting? In our youth?
They can choose. But apparently there should be no consequences...?
White. Black. Asian. Should there be a difference...?
Again, as a mother of 2 black boys, I AM aware of the racial divide in this country. It DOES exist. And it IS wrong. 100% wrong.
If my son breaks the law, may he get harsher treatment because of his color...? He absolutely (WRONGLY) may. That exists. (But be careful...it is not always the case).
I'm not going to argue who was right and who was wrong.
I'm simply talking about where we, as parents, are off track.
I've often heard parents talk about how their 17 year old go pulled over by a police office and "he sure gave him a piece of his mind!" and they chuckle.
I would have never considered anything other than respectfully complying with whatever the officer said to me...and if I did act out of line...I knew my parents would be waiting to deal with me at home.
Today...? Few kids have that fear. Yes. Fear. Come on. There is a healthy dose of fear missing.
Of their parents. Of authority. A teacher. A police officer.
And today...I fear...I fear for my children's world. The next generation of America. Yes...I fear what happens when there no longer is a "LAW" much more than my black children being treated harsher for their crimes.
This is OUR country. OUR people. OUR children.
You and I...? We have no control over the law. We do...however...have a huge role to play in the next generation.