Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Just...sad.

I've often gotten asked what I think of all the "racial" happenings with police officers across America today.

I, as you know, do have 2 black children.  I also...by the way...have 6 white children and 2 asian children.

What I believe... goes across the racial divide.

I DO believe there is still racial profiling today. No question. I DON'T believe that's always the case.

I don't teach my children they will be mistreated for their color...I do teach them to respect authorities. Always.

Isn't that where this comes down?  I mean...if any of my children...regardless of color...did what some of these kids do to police officers or anyone in authority...I would be mortified.  Because that would reflect on me and what I've taught them.

I think it's sad.  The whole thing is sad.  The lack of plain-and-simple PARENTING today is sad.  The lack of respect for authority today...is just sad.  The fact that police officers are afraid to do their job today for fear of being accused of racial profiling...is sad.  Right and Wrong goes across the racial divide.  Doesn't it...?

That's what we teach our children.  Some may treat you differently...but you are responsible...for YOU.

If one of my children hits another...and the other hits back....who gets disciplined?

Both.

You are responsible...for YOU.

Yes he hit you...and he will be disciplined for that.  And you hit him.  And that was the wrong choice.  So you will also be disciplined for that.  `

Just recently I was talking to the 6 older children and reminding them they can do whatever they want. One particular child looked at me and said "Really??"as he lit up.  Yes, I assured him.  Whatever you want.  Obey...disobey...it's 100% up to you.  You have the power to choose.  While his eyebrows were still high and his eyes darting back and forth, no doubt entertaining all the possibilities...I reminded him that while he chooses the action, WE choose the consequence.  And he can be 100% sure there will be consequences.  He said "oh yah, never mind".

Wait...is that perhaps missing today...? In parenting?  In our youth?

They can choose.  But apparently there should be no consequences...?

White. Black. Asian.  Should there be a difference...?

Again, as a mother of 2 black boys, I AM aware of the racial divide in this country. It DOES exist.  And it IS wrong. 100% wrong.

If my son breaks the law, may he get harsher treatment because of his color...? He absolutely (WRONGLY) may.  That exists.  (But be careful...it is not always the case).

I'm not going to argue who was right and who was wrong.

I'm simply talking about where we, as parents, are off track.

I've often heard parents talk about how their 17 year old go pulled over by a police office and "he sure gave him a piece of his mind!" and they chuckle.

Really...?

I would have never considered anything other than respectfully complying with whatever the officer said to me...and if I did act out of line...I knew my parents would be waiting to deal with me at home.

Today...? Few kids have that fear.  Yes. Fear.  Come on.  There is a healthy dose of fear missing.

Of their parents. Of authority.  A teacher.  A police officer.

Of God.

And today...I fear...I fear for my children's world. The next generation of America.  Yes...I fear what happens when there no longer is a "LAW" much more than my black children being treated harsher for their crimes.

This is OUR country. OUR people.  OUR children.

You and I...? We have no control over the law.  We do...however...have a huge role to play in the next generation.

Our children.


13 comments:

  1. LOVE THIS. Absolutely said what I have been thinking. Perfect.

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  2. JANICE and DEAN ...YOU ARE THE BEST PARENTS I HAVE EVER MEET AND IT IS BECAUSE YOU ALLOW JESUS TO RULE YOUR LIVES..

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    1. We are imperfect...but HE is perfect. Thank you for following our journey.

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  3. Yes Ma'am… you are right. Your exact words have come from our mouths in the past few days. Thank you for sharing; your influence is great. :)

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  4. Hi there, I was wondering if you have an Instagram account? Or if you've heard of Meredith Toering? She works at an orphanage in China, specifically with CHD babies. She's amazing, & is currently working with the Morning Star Project. I would encourage you to check her out, if you don't yet know her. You two are the same kind of awesome. :) She communicates daily through Instagram, but there's probably another way to follow her. I hope you can find her... I believe you, too, will be blessed. Have a great day!!

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    1. I haven't!! But I will totally check her out!

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    2. Not long after I sent this, a friend shared Meredith's status on Facebook, so you should be able to find her there… it appears that her daily Instagram posts are also posted on her FB wall.

      Ni Hao Y'all is also sharing God's story through their family: www.nihaoyall.com Stephanie's heart for the orphan mirrors yours. And their newest girl, Clementine, will totally melt your heart.

      And one more that I enjoy following is: www.shullfamily.blogspot.com Sweet Ashby was three yesterday! :)

      Take care, Janice, and thank you again for sharing your faith and love for Him… Selena

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  5. So glad you wrote on this topic! It both saddens and amazes me how little respect some young people --and adults show today. I have been trying to walk more and my neighborhood isn't in the greatest part of town unfortunately but I have occasionally heard little kids of perhaps 9 or 10 swearing at each other or mouthing off to an adult. I am not perfect but I don't like that filth and I never would have dared talk that way as a child. Nor do I have any desire to as an adult!
    Breaks my heart that my (half) siblings talk like that (our mother didn't curse and still doesn't like it) and my sis allows her young adult daughter to swear--even AT her! I wonder, if once kids get to be a certain age, if respect can still be taught?

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  6. Hi Janice,
    I love your blog and this post is spot on!
    We live in the same state, although not necessarily the same part of the state. :) My daughter, Christine, found your blog and told me about it. I'm so glad she did! I'm following you now. Please feel free to pop over to my blog sometime. It's fun to find fellow bloggers with similarities and in the same side of the country. :)
    Blessings to you,
    Jana

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